Origins Part 3 – Spiritual Warfare is Belief Warfare

In this episode, Pastors Nate and Daren discuss the role of spiritual warfare and demonic influence in contributing to unwanted same-sex attraction. They unpack the unseen battles behind these struggles and offer insight, discernment, and hope for those seeking freedom and healing. Visit our YouTube channel playlist for the whole Origins series!

Podcast Summary:
In this episode, Pastor Nate and Pastor Daren remind us that spiritual warfare is real, but that freedom is not mainly found in “a magic prayer” or a one-time deliverance moment—it’s found in relationship with Jesus, His Word, and His people over time. They trace the battle back to Genesis 3, emphasizing that the enemy lies and sows deception, especially around identity and desire, and that those lies can become “strongholds.” The heart of the fight is often belief warfare: bringing our thoughts and agreements under Christ’s authority and letting truth reshape our desires. As we stay Hungry, Humble, and Teachable, we learn to walk out sanctification with patience, honesty, and deep connection in the church family.

Opening Prayer

Father, we come hungry for Your Word and Your ways, confessing that we often settle for surface answers when You call us to truth. Jesus, thank You for loving sinners like us, drawing us near, and setting captives free—teach us to abide in You and trust You with the work of sanctification. Holy Spirit, convict us where we’ve believed lies, strengthen us where we feel weak, and lead us into humble, teachable repentance and real hope. We ask for unity, gentleness, and courage to speak truth in love as a church family. Amen.

Study Guide

“I want to say on the very front end, we are not in any way saying that demonic deliverance alone is enough to set somebody free from a struggle with same-sex attractions… So it’s not a magic prayer. one, two, three, go be free. There really is a process.” – Pastor Nate Oyloe

Key Verses

  • Genesis 3:14–15 – This was used to show the origin of the conflict and how the enemy works against humanity—especially aiming at “seed/children.”
  • James 1:14–15 – This was used to clarify that we should not reduce sin to “only demonic activity.” Temptation also connects to the desires within us, and we need union with Christ in the whole battle.
  • John 8:31–32 – This was used to emphasize that freedom grows from abiding/continuing in Jesus’ Word, not from surface-level spirituality.
  • John 8:36 – This verse anchored the idea that Jesus—not techniques—brings real freedom, and that freedom includes our minds and desires.
  • 2 Corinthians 10:4–5 – This was used to describe “belief warfare”—submitting interpretations, identity claims, and mental agreements to Christ.
  • Romans 12:2 – This supported the idea that sanctification includes renewed thinking—new patterns of truth replacing lies.
  • 1 Timothy 4:1 – The phrase “doctrines of demons” was repeatedly used to describe lies that shape identity and behavior; this verse gives the biblical wording behind that phrase.
  • Malachi 4:5–6 – This was used as a closing hope: God restores families and turns hearts in love, which strengthens spiritual health and discipleship across generations.

Supporting Verses

  • Mark 5:1–20; Luke 8:26–39 – Jesus’ authority over demonic oppression (also clarifies the “pigs” story). [Referenced indirectly]
  • John 10:10 – “Steal, kill, destroy” language used to describe the enemy’s aims. [Allusion]
  • Ephesians 6:10–18 – Armor of God: truth, righteousness, faith, and Scripture in spiritual battle. [helpful for balance]
  • Philippians 1:6 – Sanctification is ongoing; God finishes what He starts. [helps avoid “instant change” expectations]
  • Galatians 5:16–17 – Flesh vs. Spirit conflict in sanctification. [supports “whole war” language]
  • Romans 8:13 – Mortification by the Spirit. [supports holiness in the fight]

Topic 1: The war begins in the garden—God names the conflict

Summary:
Our Pastor Nate starts by grounding spiritual warfare in Genesis 3. The serpent’s deception brings devastating consequences, and God declares “enmity” between the serpent and the woman, and between “your seed and her seed.” This applies to the way lies spread through generations and culture, and to the responsibility of God’s people to stay alert, protective, and anchored in Scripture—especially for the sake of children and families.

Scripture used here: Genesis 3:14–15.

Quotes (from the transcript):

  • “This is the beginning of the war.”
  • “The enemy from day one has had his sights on our kids.”

Discussion questions:

  1. Why is it helpful to start conversations about spiritual warfare in Genesis rather than jumping straight to modern examples?
  2. When you hear “enmity” (conflict) in Genesis 3:15, what does that teach you about living realistically—but not fearfully—today?
  3. Where do you see “seed” language (influence, legacy, discipleship) showing up in your home or relationships?
  4. How can we help one another become more Hungry for God’s Word when culture is loud?
  5. What’s one practical way we can support parents, kids, and students in our church family right now?

Topic 2: The battle is “whole”—world, flesh, and devil, won only by union with Christ

Summary:
Pastor Daren emphasizes balance: Scripture doesn’t reduce sin to demons, and it also doesn’t reduce spiritual warfare to “it’s all in your head.” He points to James 1 to show temptation connects to the desires within us, while still acknowledging real demonic deception in the world. He then brings the focus to union with Christ: Jesus frees us from sin and death, renews our mind, and gives us the Holy Spirit who teaches truth and shepherds us back to the “origins” where lies first took root.

Scripture used here: James 1:14–15 (explicit); Romans 12:2 (explicit).

Quotes:

  • “It teaches a whole war… the world, there’s the flesh, the devil, and it’s only won by union with Christ.”
  • “We do have an advocate, the Holy Spirit, who teaches us and reveals all truth.”

Discussion questions:

  1. Where do you personally drift toward extremes: blaming everything on demons, or blaming everything on psychology?
  2. How does James 1:14–15 humble us about our own responsibility in temptation?
  3. What does “union with Christ” look like in ordinary weekly life (not just in crisis)?
  4. In what ways have you experienced the Holy Spirit using Scripture to expose a lie and bring peace?
  5. How can our group help one another practice “whole-war discipleship” with compassion and clarity?

Topic 3: Strongholds are often “belief warfare”—Jesus replaces lies with truth

Narrative summary:
A major theme is that strongholds can form when a person suffers pain, rejection, or confusion and then accepts an interpretive “story” that explains the pain—especially about identity and belonging. Pastor Daren describes this as “belief warfare”: taking speculations and lofty thoughts captive to Christ (2 Corinthians 10). He describes sanctification not as endless “demon chasing,” but as Jesus steadily replacing lies with truth, and truth reordering desire. This frames growth as discipleship—continuing in Jesus’ Word so truth leads to freedom.

Scripture used here: John 8:31–32, 36; 2 Corinthians 10:4–5.

Quotes:

  • “The spiritual warfare has been really a belief warfare.”
  • “Sanctification isn’t just demon chasing. It’s Christ replacing lies with truth.”
  • “If you remain my disciple and in my word, you will know the truth and the truth will set you free.”

Discussion questions:

  1. What are some “common lies” Christians are tempted to believe about themselves when they feel rejected or ashamed?
  2. How does 2 Corinthians 10:4–5 shape the way we think about intrusive thoughts, compulsive patterns, or identity confusion?
  3. What does it look like to “continue” in Jesus’ Word (John 8:31) when you feel stuck?
  4. What’s one belief you want to bring to Jesus this week and ask, “Lord, is this actually true?”
  5. How can we practice being Humble and Teachable when someone lovingly challenges our assumptions?

Small correction:
A story was referenced as “Jesus cast out 3,000 demons… into pigs.” The Gospels describe a demonized man and a herd of pigs “about two thousand,” (Mark 5:13 notes ~2,000 pigs.) This doesn’t change the main point—Jesus has total authority—but it’s good to keep our details tight. 😊

Topic 4: Healing is relational and often gradual—Jesus restores through love and the church

Narrative summary:
The hosts stress that growth is usually a process, not a shortcut: “no wand,” not “one, two, three, be free.” They describe how unmet needs and trauma can shape beliefs and desires, and how Jesus heals relationally—through secure attachment to Him and through supportive, wise relationships in the body of Christ. This is a call to patient sanctification: telling the truth, receiving love, and learning healthy patterns over time.

Scripture used here: John 8:31–36 (truth/freedom); Romans 12:2 (mind renewal).

Quotes:

  • “It’s not a magic prayer… There really is a process.”
  • “Jesus… draws us into a relationship where he can hold us and hug us and love on us. And over time… that brings about life change.”
  • “In him, we’re safe to admit our needs.”

Discussion questions (5):

  1. Why do we sometimes prefer “quick fixes” instead of the slow, steady path of discipleship?
  2. What’s the difference between shame-driven secrecy and humble honesty before God and trusted believers?
  3. How can our group be a safer place for people to admit needs without fear of being labeled?
  4. What would patient sanctification look like for someone you love (not demanding instant change)?
  5. Where do you need to receive Jesus’ love more deeply—through His Word, prayer, and the church family?

Topic 5: The church must go deeper—truth, discipleship, and hope for families

Summary:
Pastor Nate and Pastor Daren warn against staying “surface level” and call the church to get back to the “meat” of Scripture—digging beneath the surface so people are actually helped. They connect cultural confusion to widespread deception (“doctrines of demons”) and urge believers to build a strong foundation in truth. The episode closes with hope from Malachi: God turns hearts in families, restoring love across generations—an encouraging vision for long-term discipleship.

Scripture used here: John 8:31–32; Romans 12:2; Malachi 4:5–6; 1 Timothy 4:1 (concept/phrase).

Quotes:

  • “We could all take a lesson from the aardvark… we got to dig down.”
  • “I spent many years as a surface level Christian who only opened his Bible on Sunday…”
  • “There’s a restoration of the family… Malachi 4:5-6”

Discussion questions (5):

  1. Where do you most feel tempted to settle for “spirituality light” instead of depth?
  2. What would it look like for you to become more Hungry for Scripture this month (specific plan)?
  3. How do we speak truth in a way that is both clear and compassionate—especially with sensitive struggles?
  4. What are some ways we can strengthen intergenerational love in our church (older/younger)?
  5. How does Malachi 4:5–6 shape the way we pray for our families and our church family?

Discipleship Prayer

Determined Discipleship Through Relationship

  • Pray to be Hungry for God’s Word—continuing in Jesus’ teaching so truth reshapes our thinking and desires.
  • Pray for Humble honesty: confessing where we’ve believed lies, excused sin, or hidden pain.
  • Pray for Teachable hearts: receiving correction and counsel from Scripture and trusted leaders without defensiveness.
  • Pray for those walking through deep battles of temptation, identity confusion, or shame—ask Jesus to replace lies with truth and bring wise relationships around them.
  • Pray for our families—marriages, parents, children, and spiritual mothers/fathers—asking God to restore hearts in love and unity.
  • Pray for the church to be faithful: deep in Scripture, gentle in care, bold in truth, and patient in discipleship.

Closing Prayer

Father, thank You for naming the battle clearly in Your Word and for not leaving us alone in it. Make us a people who live in the light—quick to repent, quick to forgive, and eager to build one another up. Jesus, thank You that You set captives free. Help us abide in Your Word and follow You as true disciples, trusting that Your truth will bring freedom in real places of pain and temptation. Holy Spirit, renew our minds, expose the lies we’ve accepted, and empower us to walk in holiness with hope. Make us Hungry, Humble, and Teachable—and make our church a safe, faithful place of determined discipleship through relationship. Amen.

Challenge For The Week

Choose one “belief” you tend to assume when you’re stressed or tempted (for example: “I’m alone,” “I can’t change,” “God is disappointed in me”). Write it down, then place it next to one of the Key Verses (John 8:31–32, Romans 12:2, or 2 Corinthians 10:5) and pray daily, asking Jesus to replace that lie with truth and to reshape your desires.

Daily Devotionals

Day 1: The battle is real—but God speaks first

Read: Genesis 3:14–15
Reflection: God doesn’t ignore evil or pretend there isn’t conflict. He names it—and He also promises victory.
Challenge: Pray for one family (yours or someone else’s) by name, asking God to strengthen love and truth in their home.

Day 2: Freedom grows where we continue in the Word

Read: John 8:31–32
Reflection: Jesus links discipleship to continuing—staying close, staying steady, staying teachable.
Challenge: Spend 10 minutes reading Scripture slowly (no rushing). Write one sentence: “Today, the truth I’m holding is…”

Day 3: Take the thought captive

Read: 2 Corinthians 10:4–5
Reflection: Some battles are won by refusing to let a thought become an agreement.
Challenge: When a tempting or condemning thought shows up, pause and pray: “Jesus, I bring this under Your authority. What is true?”

Day 4: Sanctification is relational, not mechanical

Read: Romans 12:2
Reflection: Renewing the mind is more than “trying harder.” It’s a transformed pattern of thinking shaped by communion with Christ and His people.
Challenge: Reach out to a trusted believer and ask for prayer in one specific area—practice humble community.

Day 5: Hope for families and spiritual generations

Read: Malachi 4:5–6
Reflection: God’s plan includes turning hearts toward one another in love. Restoration isn’t only personal; it’s also relational and generational.
Challenge: Encourage someone older or younger in the faith with a meaningful note or conversation.

GOING DEEP IN THE WORD!

1) Starting with a biblical map: three enemies, not one

If you don’t name the categories, people will collapse everything into “a demon did it” or “I’m just wired this way.”

A. The world

A fallen system that catechizes through stories, praise, shame, and identity labels.

  • Romans 12:2 — the battleground includes conformity vs. renewal.
  • Ephesians 4:17–24 — old patterns of thinking, new mind in Christ.
  • Romans 1:25 — “exchanged the truth of God for a lie” (the essence of modern identity religion).

B. The flesh

Not merely “the body,” but indwelling sin and disordered desires that remain in the believer’s mortal life.

  • Romans 7 (especially 7:14–25) — real conflict inside the regenerate man.
  • Romans 8:13 — sanctification is not “ignore the flesh,” but putting to death the deeds of the body by the Spirit.
  • James 1:14–15 — temptation is “carried away and enticed by his own lust… lust… gives birth to sin… brings forth death.”

C. The devil and demons

Real personal evil that deceives, accuses, tempts, and exploits.

  • John 8:44 — Satan is a liar; his native language is deception.
  • 1 Peter 5:8–9 — he prowls; we resist by faith.
  • 2 Corinthians 11:14 — counterfeit “light” and plausible spirituality.
  • Ephesians 6:11–12 — our struggle includes “spiritual forces of wickedness.”

Scripture doesn’t reduce sin to demons, and it doesn’t reduce spiritual warfare to psychology. It teaches a whole-war—world, flesh, and devil—won only by union with Christ.

2) Make the distinction “demonic influence” vs “demonic cause”

This avoids “demon of homosexuality” framing while still taking spiritual warfare seriously.

What demons commonly do (biblically)

  1. Deceive (lies about God, self, love, identity)
    • Genesis 3:1–6 (the pattern), 2 Corinthians 4:4, 2 Timothy 2:25–26
  2. Accuse/condemn (drive to despair or hypocrisy)
    • Contrast with Romans 8:1 (no condemnation in Christ)
  3. Entice and bait (weaponize circumstances and imagery)
    • Matthew 4:1–11 (temptation via suggestion; Jesus answers with Scripture)
  4. Oppress (burdens, fear, confusion) — without requiring “possession” language for believers
    • Still, the believer’s basic posture is: submit to God, resist the devil (James 4:7–8)

What James makes explicit: the devil is not the root-cause of lust

James refuses to let us outsource responsibility:

  • James 1:13–15 — the internal “lust” is the engine.
    So you can say:

The devil can train, tempt, and deceive, but he cannot make you righteous by blaming him, and he cannot sanctify you by leaving. The root issue is the heart’s disordered desires—and the remedy is Christ’s renewing grace.

3) The heart-belief layer: “strongholds” are often lies we’ve agreed with

This is where you separate spiritual warfare from belief warfare without severing them.

A. Scripture treats lies as bondage

  • John 8:31–36 — abiding in Jesus’ word brings truth; truth brings freedom; the Son liberates.
  • 2 Corinthians 10:3–5 — strongholds include “speculations” and “lofty things raised up against the knowledge of God”; warfare includes “taking every thought captive.”

B. Name the pattern: wounds → interpretations → vows → identities → desires

Not as pop-psych determinism, but as a discipleship framework:

  • Wounds and shame often become interpretations (“I don’t belong,” “I’m not a real man,” “I can’t be loved rightly”).
  • Those interpretations become agreements with lies (compare Romans 1:25).
  • Agreements become habits of thought (compare Ephesians 4:17–23).
  • Habits of thought feed habits of desire (compare James 1:14–15).
  • The gospel doesn’t merely demand behavioral change; it brings renewal (compare Romans 12:2).

Simple line you can repeat:

Sanctification is not mainly demon-chasing. It is Christ replacing lies with truth and reordering desires by His Spirit.

4) The Anchor of Romans 6–8: sanctification as warfare in union with Christ

Romans 6–8 is the “battle sequence” that stays Christ-centered:

Romans 6: Your position and your new master

  • You are united to Christ in His death and resurrection (6:3–11).
  • Therefore: “consider yourselves dead to sin, but alive to God in Christ Jesus” (6:11).
  • Therefore: present yourself to God, not sin (6:12–14).

The first weapon is not casting out—it’s counting true what God says is true: I’m not in Adam; I’m in Christ. Sin is not my lord.

Romans 7: The realism of remaining corruption

  • The believer still experiences conflict.
  • This guards you from false promises (“if you had enough faith, you’d never feel temptation again”) and from despair (“if I’m tempted, I’m not saved”).

Romans 7 is not permission to make peace with lust. It is permission to be honest about the battle while you refuse surrender.

Romans 8: The decisive difference—Spirit life

  • Romans 8:1 — no condemnation for those in Christ.
  • Romans 8:5–9 — mind set on flesh vs mind set on Spirit.
  • Romans 8:13 — the method: “by the Spirit you are putting to death…”
  • Romans 8:15–16 — adoption: you fight as a son, not as an orphan.

Freedom is not merely subtraction (removing temptation). It is a new power and a new affection—the Spirit of adoption and the work of sanctification producing new desires.

5) How to talk about deliverance without making it the center

You can affirm spiritual warfare strongly while keeping sanctification central.

Explicit Guardrails

  1. We do not preach a “demon-of-SSA” model because Scripture locates temptation chiefly in the flesh (James 1; Mark 7:20–23).
  2. We do not deny demonic involvement because Scripture commands resisting the devil and putting on armor (Ephesians 6; James 4:7; 1 Peter 5:8–9).
  3. We preach Christ’s lordship over the whole person: mind, body, desires, identity (Romans 6–8).
  4. We aim for maturity, not spectacles: repentance, faith, renewed mind, mortification, walking by the Spirit (Colossians 3:1–10; Galatians 5:16–24).

If a demon left today, but you kept the lie tomorrow, you would walk back into bondage—because bondage is sustained by deception and desire, and freedom is sustained by truth and the Spirit.

6) Weapons of this war:

Warfare is the work of ordinary means of grace with disciplined obedience.

A. Truth (Word-centered)

  • Ephesians 6:14–17 — belt of truth, sword of the Spirit (Word of God).
  • John 17:17 — sanctify them in the truth; Your word is truth.

B. Repentance at the desire-level (not only behavior)

  • Matthew 5:27–30 — Jesus goes after lust, not only the act.
  • James 1:14–15 — cut it off at conception.

C. Mortification and replacement

  • Romans 8:13, Colossians 3:5 — put to death what is earthly.
  • Philippians 4:8 — replace patterns of thought.
  • Galatians 5:16 — walk by the Spirit; you will not carry out the desire of the flesh.

D. Community and confession

  • James 5:16 — confession and prayer.
  • Hebrews 3:12–13 — exhort one another daily to avoid hardening by sin’s deceitfulness.

7) Final Thoughts

  1. The Unseen War Is Real — Ephesians 6; 1 Peter 5
  2. But James Names the Root — James 1: desire births sin
  3. The Devil’s Primary Weapon Is the Lie — John 8:44; Romans 1:25; 2 Cor 10
  4. Freedom Is Union With Christ — Romans 6 (new master), Romans 7 (real fight), Romans 8 (Spirit power)
  5. Sanctification Is Truth + Spirit + Mortification — John 8; Romans 8:13; Col 3; Gal 5
  6. Hope for the Struggler — Romans 8:1; adoption; perseverance (cf. Romans 8:28–39)

Daily Prayer Card mentioned by Pastor Daren

ADDITIONAL STUDY (EXTRA CREDIT!)

FOR NEW BELIEVERS (≈60 minutes total; 4 parts)

Part 1) Read & meditate on (20 min)

  • Genesis 3:14–15; John 8:31–36; Romans 12:2; James 1:14–15; 2 Corinthians 10:4–5; Malachi 4:5–6
    Write Short Reflections:
  1. What lie do I most often believe when I’m afraid?
  2. What truth from these passages speaks directly to that lie?
  3. What’s one next step of obedience?

Part 2) Study of Christian Thought (15 min)

Resource: Ligonier article: “What Are Justification and Sanctification?”
URL: https://learn.ligonier.org/articles/what-are-justification-and-sanctification
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Writing assignment: In 5–7 sentences, explain the difference between being declared righteous and being made more holy, and why that matters when you feel stuck.

Part 3) Theological Reflection on a key topic (15 min)

Resource: John Owen, Of the Mortification of Sin in Believers
URL: https://www.ccel.org/ccel/o/owen/mort/cache/mort.pdf
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Writing assignment: What does it mean to fight sin “by the Spirit,” and how is that different from self-powered willpower?

Part 4) Prayer & Declaration Practice (10 min)

  • Pray: “Father, show me the lie. Jesus, speak Your truth. Spirit, give me power to obey.”
  • Write out a simple declaration (in your own words) using John 8:36 and Romans 12:2.
  • Read Psalm 139 and pray verses 23–24 slowly.

MATURE BELIEVERS (≈60 minutes total; 4 parts)

Part 1) Read & meditate on (20 min)

  • 2 Corinthians 10:3–6; Ephesians 6:10–18; Romans 8:13; John 15:1–11 (abiding); Psalm 51
    Write Short Reflections:
  1. Where have I confused “information” with “transformation”?
  2. How do Word, Spirit, and church community work together in sanctification?
  3. Who am I intentionally discipling toward freedom and maturity?

Part 2) Study of Christian Thought (15 min)

Resource: J.C. Ryle, Holiness (classic Reformed pastoral theology)
URL: https://www.ccel.org/ccel/ryle/holiness.html
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Writing assignment: Summarize Ryle’s view of practical holiness in 8–10 sentences, then list 3 ways you can teach it gently to others.

Part 3) Theological Reflection on spiritual warfare and truth (15 min)

Resource: A Reformed devotional on strongholds (Ligonier)
URL: https://learn.ligonier.org/devotionals/strongholds-and-supremacy
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Writing assignment: Build a “thought-captivity” plan: (a) identify a recurring lie, (b) list 3 Scriptures that answer it, (c) outline how you’ll practice renewal daily for 2 weeks.

Part 4) Prayer & Declaration Practice (10 min)

  • Pray through Ephesians 6:10–18, naming each piece of armor slowly.
  • Write a short “mentoring script” you could use with a younger believer: how to confess temptation, reject lies, and run to Christ.
  • Read Psalm 27 and turn its phrases into prayer for courage and clarity.

Daren Mehl Testimony HCR 3013

Pastor Daren Mehl testifies for North Dakota HCR 3013 (Download PDF from ND Gov Website) (HCR 3013 Testimonies)

Personal Testimony: A Journey from Gay to Straight through Marriage in Jesus Christ

My name is Daren Mehl, and I testify for you today as a pastor, a husband, and a father, testifying to the transformative power of Jesus Christ. I was once a gay-identified man, living a lifestyle I believed to be unchangeable. My wife, Rhoda, was also identified within the LGBTQ+ community as a queer woman. We met through a mutual acquaintance—someone I once dated and she was dating at the time—and, as God ordained, I proposed to her on July 11, 2004. Rhoda knowing I was sexually attracted to men, but not women, she still moved forward in our relationship as we married on December 5, 2005. I married the woman I loved in spite of having gay attractions. I gave the gay sexual orientation to God to figure out for us.  We were blessed with our first child, a son, in the Winter of 2013, and our daughter in the Spring of 2015.

Despite being married, I still had sexual attractions to men until the seventh year of our marriage when I encountered the living God in a radical way. Through faith in Jesus Christ, I experienced complete transformation, not only spiritually but also in my desires and identity. My romantic and erotic attractions to men were utterly eliminated by the power of the truth and love of God. My testimony stands as irrefutable evidence that sexual orientation is not immutable—it is fluid and can change. Jesus was my counselor who healed me.

Again, I emphasize this: as a gay man, I had every right under the law to marry a woman, just as any heterosexual man. There was no equality under the law for LGBTQ+ as far as marriage. My wife, as a queer woman, had every right under the law to marry a man, and she did! The fundamental nature of marriage was never about sexual orientation but about the biological reality of a man and a woman forming a union to carry on procreation of families, the bedrock of civilized society and nations.

The Obergefell v. Hodges ruling was not about granting a right that same-sex attracted individuals never had; it was about redefining an institution that was already accessible to all based on sex, not orientation.

Legal Argument: The Flawed Foundation of Obergefell

The Supreme Court’s decision in Obergefell v. Hodges rested on the false premise that sexual orientation is an immutable characteristic akin to race or sex. However, this is contradicted by extensive evidence demonstrating that sexual orientation is fluid. Unlike race or biological sex, which are unchangeable, individuals can and do experience shifts in their sexual attractions, as my own life and many other’s attests.

Moreover, the ruling bypassed the democratic process and overrode the will of the states and their citizens, stripping them of their authority to define marriage. The decision improperly treated the Due Process Clause as a source of new substantive rights, a dangerous precedent that has led to government coercion of religious individuals and institutions who uphold the biblical and historical definition of marriage.

By restoring the definition of marriage to its natural and legal foundation—one man and one woman—Resolution 3013 seeks to return this matter to the states and the people, where it rightfully belongs.

Religious Freedom & Conscience Clauses: The Suppression of Religious Liberty Post-Obergefell

The Obergefell v. Hodges decision did not merely redefine marriage; it set the stage for systematic suppression of religious liberty, placing the government in direct conflict with those who hold to biblical and traditional views of marriage. By elevating sexual orientation to a status akin to race or sex, the ruling has been used to coerce individuals, businesses, and religious institutions into affirming same-sex marriage against their deeply held convictions.

1. The Weaponization of Anti-Discrimination Laws Against Christians

Since Obergefell, we have seen a sharp increase in legal action, fines, and social punishment directed at Christians who refuse to participate in or endorse same-sex marriage:

  • Jack Phillips (Masterpiece Cakeshop v. Colorado Civil Rights Commission, 2018) – Phillips, a Christian cake artist, was sued for refusing to create a custom wedding cake for a same-sex wedding. Despite winning a narrow Supreme Court ruling, he continues to face relentless legal harassment for his faith-based refusal to express messages contrary to biblical teachings.
  • Barronelle Stutzman (Arlene’s Flowers v. Washington, 2021) – Stutzman, a florist, was sued by the State of Washington and fined for declining to create floral arrangements for a same-sex wedding due to her Christian beliefs. She was forced into retirement after years of costly litigation.
  • Melissa and Aaron Klein (Sweet Cakes by Melissa, 2015) – This Christian couple was fined $135,000 by the state of Oregon for refusing to bake a cake for a same-sex wedding. Their business was driven to bankruptcy.
  • Catholic Charities Adoption Agencies (Multiple States, Post-Obergefell) – In several states, Christian adoption agencies were forced to shut down because they refused to place children with same-sex couples, violating their deeply held beliefs about family and parenting.

2. Obergefell Created a “Zero-Sum” Conflict Between LGBT Rights and Religious Freedom

Before Obergefell, marriage was a state-level issue, and religious institutions and individuals had the freedom to operate according to their conscience. However, the Supreme Court’s redefinition of marriage created an unavoidable conflict:

  • If same-sex marriage is a constitutional right, then religious objections are treated as unlawful discrimination.
  • If religious freedom is protected, then individuals must have the right to refuse participation in events that violate their faith.

This has resulted in a massive legal shift, where Christians are increasingly viewed as bigots rather than conscientious objectors. People of faith are now being forced to choose between their livelihoods and their beliefs.

3. The Expansion of Obergefell into Compelled Speech and Thought Control

The aftermath of Obergefell has not been limited to participation in same-sex weddings. It has expanded into a broad campaign to enforce ideological conformity, silencing dissent, and punishing those who uphold biblical truths about marriage and sexuality.

  • Compelled Speech in the Workplace – Employees have been fired or disciplined for refusing to use preferred pronouns or for expressing traditional views on marriage.
  • Corporate & Government Censorship – Tech companies and financial institutions have de-platformed Christian organizations and businesses that oppose LGBTQ ideology.
  • Educational Indoctrination – Christian schools, colleges, and seminaries have faced pressure to conform or risk losing accreditation and funding.

4. The Urgent Need for Conscience Protections & Legislative Action

Resolution 3013 seeks to reverse the damage caused by Obergefell and restore marriage to its rightful place, protecting the rights of individuals and institutions to live out their faith without fear of government retaliation.

  • Congress and state legislatures must enact robust religious liberty protections, ensuring that no person is forced to affirm or participate in practices that violate their conscience.
  • The Supreme Court must reconsider Obergefell, recognizing that it has led to a massive infringement on First Amendment rights.
  • Christians must stand firm, advocating for legal safeguards that preserve the ability to worship, speak, and live according to biblical truth without facing legal and financial ruin.

Religious Liberty Must Be Restored

The promise of religious freedom is enshrined in the First Amendment, yet Obergefell has systematically eroded that freedom in favor of a government-enforced sexual ideology. Christians must not be forced to choose between their livelihoods and their faith, nor should the government dictate what is and isn’t acceptable belief.

Restoring the definition of marriage to one man and one woman is not just a matter of morality—it is a matter of preserving fundamental religious liberties for generations to come.

Scientific Evidence: The Reality of Sexual Orientation Fluidity

Contrary to the assertions of Obergefell, research consistently demonstrates that sexual orientation is not a fixed trait. Dr. Lisa Diamond, a researcher and proponent of LGBTQ rights, has acknowledged that sexual orientation is fluid for many individuals, particularly among women[i]. Studies show that changes in sexual attraction occur due to various life circumstances, personal growth, and spiritual transformation.[ii]

The existence of individuals who once identified as homosexual but are now living content heterosexual lives—including myself and many others[iii]—directly contradicts the claim that same-sex attraction is immutable. This fluidity undermines the classification of sexual orientation as a protected civil rights category.

Biblical Foundations: The Consequences of Redefining Marriage

The Bible is unequivocal in its definition of marriage as the union between one man and one woman (Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:4-6). This design is not arbitrary; it reflects God’s purpose for human relationships, procreation, and the nurturing of children in stable, complementary family units.

Scripture also warns nations that depart from God’s design. Romans 1:26-27 describes the consequences of turning away from natural relationships, and Proverbs 14:34 declares that righteousness exalts a nation, but sin is a disgrace to any people. When a society redefines marriage against God’s will, it invites judgment and social decay.

Furthermore, Jesus Himself affirms that marriage is a divine institution, not subject to human redefinition: “What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate” (Matthew 19:6). A nation that disregards this divine order not only harms individuals but also future generations, as children are deprived of the stability of homes with both a mother and a father.

Arguing Against the LGBTQ+ Ontology of Humanity and Human Flourishing

At the core of the LGBTQ+ movement’s ideological framework is an ontological redefinition of what it means to be human. According to their perspective, human identity is largely self-determined, fluid [irony], and primarily centered on subjective feelings and desires. They argue that a person’s sexual orientation or gender identity is an essential, defining trait of their humanity—one that is as immutable and intrinsic as race or biological sex. This framework places personal autonomy and self-actualization as the highest goods in defining human flourishing.

Counter-Argument: Biblical Ontology and True Human Flourishing

The Christian worldview which founded our country and made it great stands in stark contrast to the darkness and lies of the LGBTQ+ worldview. The Christian worldview teaches that ontology is rooted in divine design, not subjective self-perception. According to Scripture:

  • All humans are created in the image of God (Imago Dei) – Genesis 1:27 states, “God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.” Our existence is not defined by our desires but by the fact that we are image-bearers of the Creator, given a specific design and purpose.
  • Human flourishing comes through obedience to God’s order – True well-being is not achieved by indulging every inner impulse but by aligning oneself with God’s will (Psalm 1, John 10:10).
  • Sexual identity is not an ontological category – Nowhere in Scripture or in nature is a person’s identity tied to sexual preference. Rather, one’s primary identity is in relation to God—either as a sinner in rebellion or as a redeemed saint in Christ (1 Corinthians 6:9-11), and distinctly as male or female.

The LGBTQ+ ontology is inherently reductionist, reducing humanity to mere sexual or gender expressions, whereas the biblical view of humanity sees men and women as inherently valuable, created for divine purposes beyond carnal impulses. This is why LGBTQ ideology leads to confusion and dysfunction rather than fulfillment—because it misidentifies the core of human nature and purpose.

Arguing Against the LGBTQ+ Definition of Love

The LGBTQ+ movement and the concept of “gay marriage” frequently appeals to “love” as its highest moral argument:

  • “Love is love.”
  • “If two consenting adults love each other, why should anyone interfere?”
  • “Denying someone the right to love is cruel.”

But what does love mean in this framework? The LGBTQ+ ideology defines love as an uninhibited emotional and sexual attraction that should be acted upon without restriction, provided it is consensual. Their idea of love is fundamentally rooted in eros (erotic attraction and self-fulfillment) rather than agape (selfless, God-honoring and person-honoring love).

The Biblical Definition of Love

In contrast, Scripture defines love as righteous, self-sacrificial, and ordered towards God’s holiness and human flourishing:

  • Love is rooted in truth and holiness – “Love does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth” (1 Corinthians 13:6). Biblical love cannot celebrate sin, and thus love cannot be used to justify homosexual acts of sodomy.
  • Love is self-sacrificial, not self-indulgent – “Greater love has no one than this, that one lay down his life for his friends” (John 15:13). True love calls people out of sinful bondage, not deeper into it.
  • Love protects, rather than harms – “Let all that you do be done in love” (1 Corinthians 16:14). This means love must be rightly ordered—protecting the dignity of the person, rather than degrading them through sinful acts. Sodomy acts are actually working against the dignity of the gay identified man, treating them less than other men in their natural purpose in creation.

Why the LGBTQ+ Definition of Love Falls Short

  1. It equates love explicitly with sexual gratification. In Scripture, love is not lust or indulgence—it is holy, pure, and ordered toward godly purposes (Ephesians 5:1-3). The LGBTQ+ movement conflates fleeting erotic desires with lasting, meaningful love.
  2. It justifies harm under the guise of affection. Engaging in same-sex sodomy is not an expression of love—it is an act of defilement (Romans 1:24-27). Physically, it leads to increased risks of disease, trauma, and medical complications. Spiritually, it corrupts the soul and dishonors the image of God in the man.
  3. It is self-seeking, rather than self-sacrificial. The LGBTQ+ ideology promotes a self-focused “love” that seeks personal fulfillment over holiness and righteousness. Biblical love denies the self to honor God and others.

Why Sodomy is Unbecoming, Harmful, and a Radical Abomination

Physically Harmful

Sodomy—whether giving or receiving—is not what the male body was designed for. The biological reality is clear:

  • The rectum is not designed for penetration the way a vagina is. It lacks the necessary natural lubrication and structure, making it highly susceptible to tearing and disease transmission.
  • Medical studies confirm that sodomy significantly increases the risk of infections, STDs, rectal trauma, and even colorectal cancer.
  • It violates natural function.

Spiritually and Morally Unbecoming

  • Sodomy is a complete perversion of God’s design for sexuality, which was created for the union of male and female in marriage for procreation and deep, spiritual intimacy (Genesis 1:28, 2:24).
  • Romans 1:26-27 states that unnatural sexual relations are evidence of a society that has rejected God and is under His judgment.
  • 1 Corinthians 6:9-10 is clear: “Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals … will inherit the kingdom of God.” Homosexual acts—including sodomy—are fundamentally incompatible with salvation and sanctification.

Sodomy as a Radical Abomination

  • Scripture explicitly calls homosexual behavior an abomination (toevah in Hebrew), meaning a detestable act that deeply offends God (Leviticus 18:22, 20:13).
  • The judgment of Sodom and Gomorrah (Genesis 19) serves as a historic warning: when a society embraces and normalizes sodomy, it invites divine wrath.
  • Sodomy is the antithesis of love, because it degrades the image of God in men and women who practice it. It does not honor, cherish, or protect—it dehumanizes, defiles, and destroys.

Summary of Truth and Love in Harmony

  • The LGBTQ+ movement’s ontology of human nature is flawed because it is self-defined, rather than grounded in divine truth. Human flourishing is found not in indulging desires, but in submitting to God’s will.
  • The LGBTQ+ definition of love is self-focused, sexualized, and permissive of sin. In contrast, biblical love is holy, sacrificial, and rooted in truth.
  • Sodomy is unnatural, physically harmful, and spiritually destructive. It is not an act of love, but an act of defilement and rebellion against God’s design inviting divine wrath.

True love calls sinners to repentance—not affirmation of sin. Love, in its purest form, points people to Christ, the only One who can set them free. Jesus sets the repentant homosexual free and washes them clean of sin and sanctifies them unto holiness, which includes heterosexuality.

Conclusion: A Call to Restore Marriage to Its Rightful Place

The Obergefell ruling was an unconstitutional overreach, built upon a faulty premise that sexual orientation is an immutable characteristic. The reality of transformation, as seen in my life and the lives of many others, contradicts this assertion. Marriage is not a right based on personal desire but a sacred institution ordained by God for the good of individuals, families, and society.

I urge the North Dakota legislature to stand for truth and pass Resolution 3013, calling upon the U.S. Supreme Court to restore the definition of marriage to its rightful and natural state. We must honor God’s design and protect future generations from the consequences of abandoning it.

Thank you for your time and consideration.

Pastor Daren Mehl
Agape First Ministries
President, Voice of the Voiceless
Founder, Made Free Ministries
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Mehl Marriage Dec 11, 2005

The Mehl Family, 2024, Praise to Jesus for His generous blessing in our marriage!


[i] [bit.ly/LDExplains01]

[ii] www.therapyequality.org www.therapeuticchoice.com www.journalofhumansexuality.com

[iii] www.changedmovement.com